What cancer gave me...

Those who know me best know that I do my best thinking while washing dishes and while vacuuming, and this evening, as I tackled a sink full from our family's dinner, my thoughts turned towards those who I know are facing a cancer journey of their own. I have several good friends who are either fighting cancer themselves or are supporting a loved one in the fight for their lives. And even as 'One of them', I sometimes feel powerless to find the right words to support them. But with a tenacity like mine, you know I'm resolved to try.

Here's what I want to say to anyone facing cancer within themselves or alongside a loved one. And I'd even go one step further and say that this piece doesn't just apply to cancer at all. Substitute your own struggles for the word 'cancer' and it is my sincere hope that you'll find value here, too.

Cancer took a lot from me when it chose to enter my life, but each day I choose to focus on what it has given to me:

I have a greater sense of self and I know what I want out of this life, even if it hasn't all come to fruition yet.

I have a backbone. I used to worry a lot about the needs of others, often sacrificing my own. I'm still a nurturer, but I take care of myself now, too.

I now view friendships and relationships differently. I have made it my mission to nurture and support the relationships that mean the most to me, and I've also learned that it's okay to let go of relationships that aren't bringing me peace and joy.

I love like there's no tomorrow. In all aspects of life.

I never say no to a good time. Experiences are worth so much more to me than extra money in the bank or a boring chore. You can bet you'll find me out living life over sitting home any day! Unless, of course, there's something really great to watch on TV... 😉

I view each day as a gift. You only truly understand this concept when you feel as though your days have been numbered. The truth is, all of our days are numbered. We do not know which day will be our last. Live your life with the intention of honoring that idea. Love freely, smile often, lay your hands on those you love, pray, speak your mind, defend your convictions, eat the damn cake and end each day with a feeling that you've grown a little that day. I tell my children this all the time, and without sounding preachy, I wish to share this with you, too. May your days, weeks and years facing hard times be just be a small chapter in the book of your life. I know I'm convicted to keep my eye on the same sweet prize.